As millions of moms would attest, the world changes irrevocably, the moment
you have a baby. You don't of course necessarily need to get pregnant and
deliver a child. Whether you have a biological baby, an adopted baby or a baby
through surrogacy, etc. what matters is the moment you take responsibility for
another living being.
Sure, we all take responsibility for many other people in our lives. Yet, a tiny baby, with its utter innocence and purity, total dependence and complete trust in you as provider and protector, can change the whole way you look at the world! It can change you from silent saint to rabid killer-mom with fangs out to get anyone who even remotely looks like he could harm her little one. I should know (sigh!).
N was born after much difficulty which was probably a blessing-in-disguise since it made me pause and consider motherhood a lot more than I might have if it had been matter-of-fact and easy. I ask myself, ‘Is motherhood for me, going to be the same as what it was for my mother?’ And what I find is that the world my daughter will grow up in is so different and alien in many ways to the one I grew up in. Which is as it should be, life goes on and all that, but that fundamentally changes my role as mother, from what it used to be for my mom.
There are many revolutions in media, technology, education and development around the world that will surely affect social structure and family structure in the decades to come. How can I bring up a child who’ll be ready for this world?
The best part is as N grows and learns, I too will grow and learn as a parent. As I mentioned in my first post, this blog is a way for me to sort my thoughts en route. It is also a place where I want to have meaningful conversations with other moms that will enrich me and better equip me for this experience as a mother.
Apart from my thoughts, here’s where I’ll share articles on parenting that I like and that I think you’ll like. Likewise, other online resources I find useful. More importantly, there are so many moms I admire for raising children who are not only great achievers but great human beings. Here is where I plan to share them with you.
I hope to update the blog at least every week with something.
I also have plans to migrate this to a properly hosted site but haven’t figured that one out yet. If any of you want to offer help/ suggestions, do inbox me, I’ll be grateful!
Finally, do leave your comments or email me with your feedback about what you like, don’t like and what you’d like to see. I’d love to hear from you.
Thank you for reading. And happy parenting!
Much love,
Deepa
Sure, we all take responsibility for many other people in our lives. Yet, a tiny baby, with its utter innocence and purity, total dependence and complete trust in you as provider and protector, can change the whole way you look at the world! It can change you from silent saint to rabid killer-mom with fangs out to get anyone who even remotely looks like he could harm her little one. I should know (sigh!).
N was born after much difficulty which was probably a blessing-in-disguise since it made me pause and consider motherhood a lot more than I might have if it had been matter-of-fact and easy. I ask myself, ‘Is motherhood for me, going to be the same as what it was for my mother?’ And what I find is that the world my daughter will grow up in is so different and alien in many ways to the one I grew up in. Which is as it should be, life goes on and all that, but that fundamentally changes my role as mother, from what it used to be for my mom.
There are many revolutions in media, technology, education and development around the world that will surely affect social structure and family structure in the decades to come. How can I bring up a child who’ll be ready for this world?
The best part is as N grows and learns, I too will grow and learn as a parent. As I mentioned in my first post, this blog is a way for me to sort my thoughts en route. It is also a place where I want to have meaningful conversations with other moms that will enrich me and better equip me for this experience as a mother.
Apart from my thoughts, here’s where I’ll share articles on parenting that I like and that I think you’ll like. Likewise, other online resources I find useful. More importantly, there are so many moms I admire for raising children who are not only great achievers but great human beings. Here is where I plan to share them with you.
I hope to update the blog at least every week with something.
I also have plans to migrate this to a properly hosted site but haven’t figured that one out yet. If any of you want to offer help/ suggestions, do inbox me, I’ll be grateful!
Finally, do leave your comments or email me with your feedback about what you like, don’t like and what you’d like to see. I’d love to hear from you.
Thank you for reading. And happy parenting!
Much love,
Deepa
D: Mastering the art of letting it all flow along (maybe the way our parents did) is by far the toughest for us Moms who don't want a strait-jacketed, black & white approach. The approach that works best works with A is when we offer an answer that is logical yet imaginative. The balance does go awry at times as they soak it all up from their environment but as long as they are not bound or scared of consequences all the time, I can assure you - they'll be fine.
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